The Hands of Time

I fool people all the time.

It seems no one is capable of discerning my true age by just looking at my face which is, for the most part, great! Looking younger than what I actually am only bothers me when people assume or ask my son if I gave birth to him at 12. Why would that bother me? Well, I guess it has a lot to do with what it implies, a young, single, promiscuous female with three kids by three different men. Or, perhaps it has to do with growing up in an era when being pregnant at 16 or younger wasn’t acceptable.

Let me give you a prime example of what I’m talking about. While in the ER waiting for my DH to pull the car around, I told the nurse on duty that I could not understand why I was having such a difficult pregnancy with Mademoiselle. She then asked if all my kids had the same father. Excuse me! “Well, I’m only asking because it does make a difference in determining the type of pregnancy a woman will have,” she said. Oh really! “No, honey, I’ve been married to the same man for 14 years. “Oh, you look so young.” Now, please explain to me why she assumed the worse case scenario. You should have seen the look on her face when DH appeared, helping me put on my coat before gently escorting me out of the room.

Or what about a few summers ago, I was walking down the street of a college town with my two sons and niece when a college counselor stopped me to ask if I was aware of  academic services and support provided by the University of California, Berkeley for single moms. “What!” “What made you think I was a single mom?” I sarcastically asked. “I’m so sorry, I thought you were 19,” she said with a bit of embarrassment.

While I might have fooled them with my face, if they had only taken a close look at my hands, they would have known the truth about my age. The reality is, our hands reveal a lot about age due to the natural aging process that leaves them looking wrinkled or as if they belong on someone else’s body.

Our hands can age up to 10 years older than our face and body; therefore, it is important to take the necessary steps now to maintain young-looking hands. 

  • You must wear gloves in the winter time and a sunscreen during the summer months, especially if you spend a lot of time in a car with your hands on the steering wheel.
  • Wearing protective gloves while doing housework is the best way to keep hands safe from being overexposed and undermoisturized.   

The same process of cleansing, exfoliating, and moisturizing you perform on your face should also be done on your hands. Exfoliation can be done twice a week, but moisturizing must be done on a daily basis. Sometimes I like to use a good hand cream immediately after washing my hands. 

I’ve used several hand creams in the past, but none moisturized my hands like the three I’ve discovered.


The Body Shop’s Hemp Hand Protector is an excellent intense hand therapy for dry to extremely dry skin. This is the only cream my DH will use. Because the scent is so strong, I only use it indoors since I don’t want anything interfering with my favorite fragrance Sugar.


Aveda’s Hand Relief is good to carry in my purse because it has a mild sent and the rich cream is also excellent for normal to dry hands. It also contains vitamin E which is believed to slow the aging process.  


But, my all time favorite is Kiehl’s Intensive Treatment and Moisturizer. This is an awesomely ultra-rich hand cream great not only for extremely dry hands, but also for callused areas. The avocado oil and shea butter work well together to soothe my hands. Although this cream is VERY greasy and works well as an overnight treatment, I still use it during the day and carry it around to use while I’m out and about.


2 Comments on “The Hands of Time”

  1. Antoinette says:

    Hi Traci,

    I too get strange/offensive age and marriage-status questions — and I’m sure to get more now that I’m a new mom!!

    Thanks so much for the hand cream tips: I was just this past December looking for an effective hand moisturizer over at Elephant Pharmacy — lots of good shea butter products over there.

    The web site looks super!

  2. kia says:

    yeh hands are a tale tell, so are teeth. any favorite whiteners? i know the other tips: brushing, flossing, dental visits and no colas, etc….

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