A Moment to Grieve

Sadly, my stepfather passed away.

I will be out of town until the end of next week. I’ll try to post something if things aren’t too crazy, but if I can’t I’ll be back blogging on Monday, April 9th. 

Thanks so much for your continued support. Please continue to make comments by clicking on the titles. Also, you can email me with suggestions, questions, etc., at fashionistaandbaby@gmail.com. I really want to hear from you!

Have a stylish and fabulous week!


All Right, OK, You Win

For the past several months, I have successfully managed to drive by Jenny’s Beauty Supply and, I might add, without entertaining the thought of making a certain purchase. Yay, me!

That is…until yesterday.

My hair has been in its natural state for almost nine years now, but I’ve also struggled with styling my hair for every one of those years. I just cannot do it, and let’s not even mention how lazy I am when it comes to dealing with my ultra thick and super coarse mane. I just hate dealing with it, yet I’m still determined to remain natural. So, the easiest and less time consuming solution for me is to either wear braids, a scarf, or a wig

However, all that came to a screeching halt when I noticed my thinning hair line. I mean, it was pretty close to bald. I could definitely see a lot of scalp. My hair was shedding due to post-pregnancy hormonal changes. After I freaked out a little bit, I started using Miss Jessie’s Baby Buttercreme every day to keep my hair moisturized and laid off the braids and wigs in an effort to prevent any further damage. I really didn’t know what else to do until someone suggested I try Phyto’s Phytocyane for thinning hair.


I asked this unknown woman several times if the product actually worked because I was a little apprehensive about shelling out $48, but she insisted it did. Well she convinced me! I immediately purchased a box, and I’m glad I did. My hair has made some progress and is now starting to thicken around the edges once again. I’ve also been using Kinky Curly’s Curling Custard. This product is a good detangler and it makes my hair more managable and a whole lot easier to put in a ponytail. I’ll write up a full review in a much later post, but until then you can read about Afrobella’s experience with Kinky Curly.

I know you’re probably waiting for me to tell you what possessed me to go into Jenny’s Beauty Supply, right? Okay, I get this email in my inbox, telling me that I still have a chance to purchase tickets to attend this designer shopping event that includes cocktails, a goodie bag filled with free beauty products, and 60% off designer clothes and jewelry. I got excited, invited a friend, and purchased the tickets.

I really want to be cute for this event tonight, but with two busy boys and Baby Mademoiselle, I know I’m not going to have enough time to wash my hair and I don’t want to wear a scarf. As I’m driving down the street with all this on my mind I finally say to myself, “All right, ok, you win, Jenny.” And, I marched through the front door, straight to the back, sat down, and tried on some wigs. Oh what the heck, I figure my hair has recovered and I definitely need a brand new hair-do.  

Yay, for a quick and easy no fuss hair style for a busy mama.


Talk to the Hand

Poor customer service is the bane of my existence. It just makes my blood curdle.

If your not in the business of providing quality customer care, then you shouldn’t be in business. I don’t understand why it is so difficult to accomplish this easy feat. After all, a strong, solid customer base is the driving force behind any successful business. It does not require a advanced degree in manners 101, social intelligence or ethics to master the skill of excellent customer service. The only thing needed is just some good old compassion, understanding, and a moral business mind-set.

The ever increasing rudeness of people and this “talk to the hand” mentality in the world today is driving me crazy, and I refuse to tolerate it in the service and retail industries. Everyone who knows me, knows that I’m a stickler for customer service and will complain in a heartbeat if it’s not right. Why should I throw away hard earned money?  

With that said, back in February I emailed Maryam of Maryam’s Soap Nook, explaining the serverity of Mademoiselle’s eczema. I also informed her of Mlle O’s nut and milk allergies. Maryam quickly responded, telling me that she could whip up a special batch of body butter that included: cocoa, avocado, and mango butter, jojoba oil, vitamin E, Avena, and beeswax. After I received this email, I sent two additional that asked if this special batch would relieve baby Mademoiselle’s itching.

In repsonse Maryam sent this email:  

Avocado (Oil and Butter),  Evening Primrose oil,  Jojoba oil,  Meadowfoam oil, Olive oil, Emu oil, Cocoa Butter,Vitamin E, Calendula oil, Collodial Oats (Avena) are oils and butters that help relieve the symptoms of eczema and psoraisis and healing/ itching the best and that are not nuts or milks.

Well, I was convinced. So I immediately placed an order for a $25 jar of Whipped Body Butter (formulated for nut & milk allergies), which turned out not to be whipped at all. The butter was just a bunch of different oils that had been melted down and mixed together, creating a semi-hard substance that needed to be melted in the palm of my hands before applying. The butter also did not include the evening primrose, meadowfoam, or olive oil, but this didn’t bother me as long as the product was going resolve Mlle O’s skin woes.

To my surprise, the product did not relieve her itching nor did it moisturize her skin, but made it dry, which was very puzzling to me. I was upset, but since I liked the smell I decided to use the butter for my son who doesn’t suffer from dry skin and started research to create my own product that would best suite my baby’s needs. But then…

A few days later, I noticed four black spots on the side of the butter and when I opened it, I discovered it was mold. So you know what I did, I sent Maryam an email. The following is our email conversation: 

I was already upset at the fact that your body butter, which isn’t whipped, made my daughter’s skin more dry. It didn’t moisturize her skin at all. However, I got over it and said that I could use the product (10 different oils melted together) for my son. But…I was angry this morning when I discovered mold throughout the product. I couldn’t believe it! I feel it would be the right thing to refund my money and I can send you back your product.

From Maryam: I’m sorry to hear that the butter didn’t work for you, I’m also sorry to hear that you got mold in it as well, it is a natural product with no preservatives, and it sounds like you got water into the product.  Please accept my apologies.  Sorry, my message was sent before I finished writing it, if there are little white specks throughout the product it isn’t mold, that is the butters.  I re-read your email and I’ve never had or heard of the mold throughout the product,  If you introduced water to the product, there would be mold throughout the product.  When the butters harden they sometimes turn into white specks throughout the butter.

My response: No, Maryam, it is black mold. I don’t understand why anyone would put water in a body butter. I have used body butters for several years now and never did I expose them to water. I understand that it is a natural product, but no where on the packaging did it say to refrigerate. It sounds as if you’re telling me that I’m basically out of $25. Is that correct?

My email was sent on March 21st and I’m still waiting on a response from Maryam. I am pissed to the highest pissibility (made up word) at the fact that she blamed me, by saying I introduced water to the product. What! That butter was no where near water. Instead of making excuses, the right thing would have been to offer a refund or to ask how she could somehow resolve the issue.


How Cute Is That?



These cute paper water proof placemats are perfect for spring. $20 for four at Velocity Art and Design.



Lap desk for those who like working in bed and need a solid surface to write on. $24.99 at the Container Store.


Where have you been all of my life! Life.doc is a perfect way of storing all of your important documents in one place. $29.95 at Wishing Fish.


True fashionistas serve it with style. High heel cake server at Wishing Fish, $20. 


Style Jacking

If I had to name a celebrity that best fit my personal style, I would have to choose Halle Berry. I will search like crazy all over the internet to see what she’s been wearing lately. No matter where you see her, she’s always fashionably dressed.

Maybe you’re not a fanatic like me, but I know you’ve seen a celebrity and wondered where you could possibly get your hands on that very same outfit, or one close to it. For that very reason, I’m amazed at Samida‘s celebrity style jacking abilities. She can find pretty much anything worn by a celebrity, which fills me with joy because it makes life a lot easier for me.

Just witness her skills for yourself. The following photos are from Samida’s website Stained Couture. Check out the site for details.  




So, I guess I should also tell you that Samida is pretty good at the online stylist thing. What I like about her blog, E-stylist, is that she will help you put together an outfit for free. Yes girl, free! And, what she creates won’t hurt your wallet because Samida’s pretty good at finding inexpensive alternatives. It’s a great site to get ideas on how to pair items together.

These are my favorite outfits:



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The Undomestic Goddess


After reading an email from Nicole this afternoon, I realize that I need to get myself together. If she can wake up at six in the morning, shower, get dressed, get her kids ready for school, cook breakfast, eat, drop her kids off, and get to work by 7:30 within an hour and a half; then perhaps I should, at least, be able to get my son to school five minutes early instead of five minutes late. And, maybe, just maybe, I can cut my bathroom time down a little from an hour and a half to say…an hour. 

If Nicole can get home from work at 4 PM, help with homework, make lunches for the next day, cook dinner, clean the house, go to the gym, make homemade cookies for dessert, read a bedtime story, and get in bed by 9:30; then perhaps I should be able to, at least, clean something before I go to bed. Maybe, just maybe, load the dishwasher.

I am truly a goddess, but unfortunately an undomestic one with no concept of time. I can’t help it. Its just the way I was raised, so blame my parents because they wanted me to be a high powered career woman and didn’t bother teaching me how to cook, fold, or iron clothes. Now, you tell me what happens when a girl raised in this manner gets married and has children?

Because of them, I hate ironing and folding clothes, and cleaning up. Housework is too overwhelming for me. I burn toaster pastries (organic healthier version of pop tarts) for god sakes. And, it takes me thirty minutes to figure out what I’m going to wear. Let’s not even talk about my time in the shower; or putting on lotion, cleansing my face, tying my hair in a scarf, and putting on makeup. I like to make sure I’m looking decent because in the back of my mind I’m constantly thinking, “What if I run into someone I know and I look like a hag!” I know its vain, but I can’t help it! It is just a part of who I am.

 Honestly, I’d rather spend my time out and about with, Mademoiselle. I’m fortunate to have a partner who doesn’t get upset if I spend all day out shopping, whether its actually buying or window shopping instead of maintaining a perfectly clean household. He knows I’m not capable of multi-tasking. If I shop, then I can’t clean because I have to help with homework, etc. when I get home. I just may be a part of a small majority, but I realize that there are a lot of women just like, Nicole. Most of you are professionals with the added responsibility of family, high powered career driven, and stay-at-home moms who may not have time to shop for stylish clothing.


If you fall into this category, then I have great news for you. One of my favorite stores, Saks Fifth Avenue, has the perfect solution to help women on the go balance their busy schedules with Want it – a list of nine fashion trends every girl needs to look absolutely fabulous for spring, including high waisted belts, shorts, shoes, handbags, chic apparel, and more. So for all of you busy women out there, Saks has done all the hard work for you so that you can focus on what’s most important and not feel guilty for for stealing a little time for yourself.  

*Saks is offering free shipping for purchases of $150 or more until March 25th.

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Little Fashionista


I did not want to go into Nordstrom yesterday. Seriously, I’m telling you the god honest truth, but my son insisted. The only thing I wanted to do after I picked the boys up from school was to purchase some dinner forks and glasses from Crate & Barrel. Oh but no, I ended up buying three t-shirts and sunglasses for the eldest son, a pair of D&G sunglasses for myself, shoes for the youngest son, and an outfit for baby Mlle O. How crazy is that!

Now, I’ll admit that I did tell my son, D, that I would buy him a couple things from H&M. That said, it pretty much was downhill from there. 

While D was in the dressing room (this is the first time I allowed him to go by himself), I went over to the little girl’s section to check out items on the sales rack, but could not find anything worth buying. I swear to you I was on my way out of there until I strolled by a rack of clothing by Pumpkin Patch and found the cute little floral babydoll top pictured above. Of course, I had to purchase the floral applique cropped jeans to go with the top. I’m sorry, but a pair of baby cropped jeans…impossible to pass up. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to find a picture of the pair I purchased, but I found the next best thing to give you some idea of how Mlle O is going to look tomorrow. 

The bracelet is from Kincaid Designs, which I plan to order next week and the shoes are in fuchsia.  

How cute is that!